Being a mom is one of the most beautiful things that can happen to us women. The arrival of a new member to the family will change our routine and impact our finances. Here are some tips on how to take care of our finances.
If employed, talk to your employer’s HR department. Check what the maternity policies are, the sick leave days you are covered, whether there is a cap on the salary you will receive during your maternity leave, and what additional benefits or supports are available in your company. This way, you will have all the documents ready at the time of your baby’s arrival.
Host a diaper baby shower. It will allow you to have a stock of the products you use the most within the first years of your baby’s life as a gift from those close to you.
A baby practically doubles his size during the first year of life. Always buy clothes one size larger so you can maximize the use of each garment.
Feeding products for newborns are expensive. In addition to being a unique instance to connect and establish a bond with your baby, breastfeeding allows you to take care of your pocket and helps you recover your physical condition.
Reduce, recycle and reuse. Get organized and prepare healthy meals at home for your baby, which will allow you to reduce the consumption of prepared foods and give them a healthy option. Save and store your baby’s clothes that are too small. You can use them if you have more children, donate, or give them away, positively impacting the finances of your circle and the environment.
Ceci Jiménez – Women in Finance
It is a non-profit foundation that seeks to promote women’s professional development and empowerment in the industry, aiming to increase the number of women in leadership positions in the financial sector through three pillars: impact, resources, and networking. https://mujeresenfinanzas.mx
We are on Easter holidays and regardless of whether you go out or stay in your city, or if you have to work or not, they will be –I hope– calmer days where we will have more free time and what many of us are looking for is to disconnect a little.
Yes, there is war, inflation, and many problems, but it is also worth putting all that on pause and occupying our minds with other issues. For this reason, I leave you with seven options to disconnect and enter other worlds or sound stories that are very worthwhile.
Hotel Jorge Juan
I insist that Mexico needs more quality pop culture podcasts (or maybe I haven’t found one yet) and when I think of that, I think of this podcast. It is hosted by Javier Aznar, a Spanish writer and columnist who invites another writer, artist, or anyone who has an interesting project to talk in each episode. The differentiating point is the tremendous references, data, and anecdotes that he takes from each episode, where you can well discover a film by Gaspar Noé, novels that you did not know, and a lot, a lot of music: from Miles Davis to Jack White passing through Mecano, all in one same episode. It’s an amazing podcast.
Sonia
Sonia is the Spanish version of Sandra, a fictional podcast from Gimlet Media. The story revolves around Elena, who goes to work at the company that creates Sonia, the most popular artificial intelligence in the world, which is like an Alexa or a Siri, which makes me think, why are they always women? But the point is that this dystopian journey opens up questions such as hyper-surveillance, rapacious consumerism, and what would happen if behind these artificial intelligences there were people of flesh and blood.
Wind of Change
This is one of the podcasts that I have liked the most in my life. There is a rumor (true, this is not fiction) that the song “Wind of Change” by the German metal band Scorpions was written by the CIA as propaganda to help bring the Cold War to an end. The journalist Patrick Radden Keefe is in charge of investigating this rumor and taking it to its final consequences to determine if it is true or false.
Ciudades Esenciales
The bad news is that this podcast ceased to exist four years ago, the good news is that they left us 10 chapters to get to know cities like Kyoto, Los Angeles, Taipei or Bohol (in the Philippines). Each episode details the characteristics of the cities, from history and gastronomy to what to do if you go there. It is a great way to travel with your mind if for the moment your body is locked up in the home office.
Esta es otra historia
This podcast by Veka Duncan and Oswaldo Casares recovers the most bizarre anecdotes in the history of Mexico, those that the history books have left aside for seeming like fiction. From the origin of the Chupacabra to Santa Anna making chewing gum fashionable. This podcast rescues those data that if they were taught to us at school, history classes would be much less boring. The only detail is that it’s exclusive to Audible, so you need to pay that platform to listen to it, but if you like podcasts, go for it, it’s well worth it.
Rabbits
This is a very rare and very interesting podcast. It all starts when Yumiko, Carly Parker’s best friend and host of this podcast, disappears. Carly takes us into the search (in real time) for her friend, which ends up being much more complicated than it seems, because apparently, she was playing Rabbits, a game that has been played in the world since ancient times, and discovering it could lead to Yumiko’s whereabouts, but also with the biggest secrets in the universe. It is real? Is it fiction? Nothing is clear and that is the appeal of this podcast.
Audiobooks
These can be found on many platforms such as Beek, Storytel, Audible, and even on Spotify or YouTube. Listening to a book is a great way to get to know it without having to have all your senses engaged. So you move forward while driving, washing dishes, or taking a walk around town.
Romina Pons
She is an editor, broadcaster, writer, producer and mom. She has written in various media about music, feminism and digital culture. She currently produces and hosts various podcasts for Audible and HBO, among others. Twitter and Instagram: @rominapons.
This article was first published on La-Lista. You can see it here.
After living in confinement for almost two years due to Covid-19, we face moments of uncertainty and stress due to isolation. And if, as adults, we are on the verge of a nervous breakdown, imagine the spoiled ones at home. For this reason, today I want to recommend a book that the whole family will surely enjoy: A practical guide to mindfulness for children: Simple tools and exercises to do at school and home, by Silvio Raij.
Suddenly, we stopped seeing our friends in person, we could no longer visit our favorite places, and many were even unable to see their parents for a long time. It was then that circumstances led us to renew ourselves, acquire new knowledge, and adapt to a new lifestyle in every way.
This affected both adults and children, but fortunately, during this confinement, the practice of activities that help us clear our minds and feel calm in the face of the unknown and alarming situation we are experiencing increased.
This is how this remarkable book published by Editorial Paidós came into my hands, which I highly recommend:
Learn with your children to connect with the environment through mindfulness. Photo: Susy Pérez
This practical guide to mindfulness for children has illustrations by the artist Julieta Farfala, and the text highlights the experience of Silvio Raij. He is categorized in the field of coaching, leadership, and mindfulness. This book explains the importance of knowing what mindfulness is and how to teach children the benefits of this practice.
Mindfulness comes from Buddhism, a philosophical doctrine that dates back to 2500 BC. and generally invites one to live here and now with balance, openness, and acceptance of oneself and the environment. If you want to know more, do not miss the specific note that we have in Baby Creysi for you.
But let’s get on with the book…
It is aimed at parents, educators, or anyone who lives with children, and it should be noted that no previous experience in the practice of meditation is required, which makes this book a simple tool to teach children the importance of living in the now.
That you discover with your children the benefits of practicing mindfulness will be healing for them, especially if in their routine they are constantly stressed, they get irritated more easily than ordinary people, or you notice that they have stopped enjoying themselves, that they live it in the cell phone, tablet or computer and do not connect with their surroundings.
Beyond the stress…
This reading gives us words that, when put into practice, become beneficial and enriching in every way, and even better, if we share these teachings with children, little by little, they will learn to be aware of their emotions and thoughts.
How to read it?
The guide is divided into eleven chapters in which we will learn about mindfulness and how to apply it in our daily lives. We will be taking our first steps in teaching mindfulness to children, and we have a whole chapter explaining how to use the cards (included), so it is important to read the book before using them. In the last chapter, you will find a guide on designing a class using the cards.
A book full of illustrations and good vibes. Photo: Susy Pérez
The book includes thirty illustrated cards specially designed for children between 4 and 12 years old to help them learn to relax through mindfulness, find calm, cultivate kindness, and control their emotions better. Each of the cards has instructions for the activity to be carried out, the intention, materials (if required), the practice, and questions after having done the exercise. They are divided into six themes:
Breathe
Pay attention
Observe your thoughts
Manage your emotions
Discover your body
Be kind and happy
“Childhood is a wonderful stage. There is no past, no future; just a present that is looked at with innocence and illusion”.
Carla Montero
I am sure you will enjoy reading and doing the exercises in the book, individually or in a group. Invite the little ones to join in living a whole and assertive life with mindfulness practice.
Susy Pérez
I am Susana Pérez, CEO of Pop Kinema, a media of entertainment with which I have had the opportunity to cover various sections, especially books, one of my favorite hobbies.
I have interviewed several authors that I had never imagined in my dreams because before, I saw the fact of being able to converse with them as far away or impossible.
Now I will share with you and your children several of the books I have read to give you a little push and encourage you to read and imagine a world of adventures with the stories you read. Find more on my Susy Kinema channel.
I’ll be looking forward to meeting you in 15 days in my next article!
My dear daughter, today is International Women’s Day, and I would like to explain what the date entails. When I found out that you would be a girl, I was filled with joy. Your dad and I imagined what you would be like since you were in my womb. Will you like dancing as much as I do? Will you love the arts like your dad? We searched for a powerful name that would reflect strength and kindness. We prepared every detail to welcome you with love and thoroughness and dreamed of you. We visualized you big, happy, radiant, full of life and joy. But there is something inside me that worries me, and that is why I go out every March 8 to demand fairness. I must confess that the world you arrived in scares me a little because it is true: things are not easy for women, there are many dangers, and there is machismo.
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I want to tell you that International Women’s Day is not a date to congratulate ourselves for our beauty or for being a “wonder that God created.” Today is a day of struggle; the goal is to make ourselves visible and stop all kinds of abuse. I hope that when you grow up, this day becomes obsolete, and its existence will not be necessary. Hopefully, women and men are recognized equally, and gender equality is a daily practice, so common that we do not have to emphasize it. One day they called us the weak sex, and we repeat that story so many times that we end up accepting it as reality without realizing its consequences. For a long time, we women taught our children that this was the truth; that is why we want to change the paradigm.
Let’s rewrite history: Once upon a time, there was a world where all people lived together, collaborated, and learned from each other. A society in which we respect each other not for being of one sex or the other but simply for being part of humanity.
That is the meaning of Women’s Day. It is not a day against men; on the contrary, today many families march on the streets to demand equity: women and men have the same rights and opportunities but respect our differences.
The fight is not one day, nor was it born from a specific event. It is the fruit of more than a hundred years of feminist movements to demand freedom of thought and action, fair wages, and, above all, an end to all kinds of violence.
For my part, I will do my best to make you a full, confident woman but also kind, empathetic, and fair. Your mission is to be happy, find a dream, and fight for it.
Your dad and I will be your guides, but the time will come when you must fight alone, spread your wings, and shine with all your brilliance. I only ask that when you have your daughters or sons, if you want to have them, you teach them that we are all valuable and that there is no such thing as the weaker sex.
Never let them put you down for being a woman. If someone tells you that you can’t, draw courage within yourself to prove otherwise. If they try to mistreat you or make fun of you because of your gender, raise your voice, defend yourself, and don’t be afraid to set limits. We will teach you how to do it because you are not alone.
I want you to know that you are unbelievably valuable and that only you have control over your body and your decisions. Remember that everything has positive and negative consequences, so you must consider them before making any choice.
That’s right, dear daughter. You came into the world at a time when things are changing, but it requires us to keep fighting. I hope that we no longer have to go out into the streets to shout for respect, peace, and freedom one day. Meanwhile, we don’t give up, and I ask you never do.
Being a mom or dad is not easy. Bringing up girls and boys, taking responsibility for them, even for a few hours, can be one of the most fun and tender experiences and challenging for an adult, whether you are a mother, father, caregiver, or teacher.
In general, we don’t ask ourselves how to deal with our kids; we simply resort to the strategies that other adults applied to us to get us to brush our teeth, stop jumping on benches, wake up on time, and eat broccoli, or do math homework.
Without a doubt, everyone has his particular style to solve the challenges that the education of our children presents us with; however, when we ask ourselves, what the best way to educate them will be, this is when the topic becomes interesting.
When we ask ourselves, “How does the way I teach him what he finds most difficult to understand in class influence his self-esteem? Will it be positive or negative for his development to allow him to do everything he wants? Focusing on my cell phone when we are at home will affect our communication?”
Regardless of the role we play for children, each of us frequently resorts to certain parenting styles; this generates a family climate and affects their emotional, intellectual, and social development.
Parenting styles are defined as adults’ general attitudes or beliefs about a proper upbringing for girls and boys.
We learn these parenting styles in our families of origin, so we commonly repeat with boys and girls what we experienced as children or, just from reflecting on our childhood and the experiences that we consider painful, we choose to apply different styles of upbringing, to avoid going through the same situations as us.
Developmental psychologists have been interested in studying these processes; Diana Baumrind (1991) is one of the first to catalog these styles, which she called: Authoritarian, Permissive and Assertive Styles. Later other authors included the Indifferent style and used it as a synonym for Assertive, Cooperative, or Democratic style.
Authoritarian parenting style
In general, in this style of upbringing, adults value the obedience of girls and boys; demanding treatment and rigid rules predominate. Mothers, fathers, and teachers tend to seek control; they focus on negative behaviors and failures and not on their daughters and sons’ positive behaviors and achievements.
When parenting practices with this style predominate, girls and boys grow up insecure and anxious, doubt their ability and their self-esteem is not so positive because they get used to focusing on their failures.
Permissive style
This style is characterized by limited, confusing, changing, and ambiguous rules. In the classroom or at home, girls and boys do what they please and are in control, adults do not have clear ideas of what they expect from these girls and boys, avoiding confronting their conflictive behaviors, but they enjoy rewarding and pampering them.
On the contrary, parenting practices with this style are highlighted. It is commonly found that children do not know how to regulate their impulses their emotions, and it is difficult for them to complete tasks or activities.
Indifferent parenting style
Here we find that a cold, distant attitude prevails with the boys and girls, communication is scarce, adults forget the needs of the little ones, and among their priorities, the upbringing of girls and boys is left out, so they try to solve their needs on their own with the resources they have. Still, they are often unable because they require support and guidance.
When an indifferent parenting style prevails, the development of girls and boys is stuck or hindered in general; they need adults who are there to guide them, the indifference on the part of adults who are significant to children favors a poor self-concept and low self-esteem; to feel and know that they are loved, valued, every girl and boy needs attention, listening and company.
Democratic or cooperative style
The axis that guides this parenting style is the will to educate girls and boys to become autonomous, combining affectionate treatment, good communication, and clear, well-defined rules and limits. Adults attend to the needs of girls and boys. Still, they teach them to fend for themselves, think about the consequences of their actions, accompany and support them in their development challenges, and offer them options considering their abilities and needs.
Undoubtedly, this style promotes the integral development of girls and boys, who know rules and order, feel loved and supported to grow with independence and positive self-esteem.
In everyday life, no adult uses a pure parenting style, that is, only cooperative, authoritarian, permissive, or indifferent, and much less educates all girls and boys with the same style.
This is because all parenting styles provide valuable tools. Can you imagine parents whose children are about to become independent from home? They will undoubtedly resort to an indifferent parenting style, or a teacher in charge of a group that needs firm rules will surely resort to a different parenting style, authoritarian.
Thus, the important thing is to begin identifying the positive tools that each style entails, taking the best of each one, and thinking about favoring the autonomy, development, and happiness of girls and boys.
Sometimes being authoritarian is necessary when they are in danger of accident or illness; at other times, acting with a permissive style is valid when enjoying a celebration, being exhausted, or very sick. A small dose of nonchalance when he has a tantrum or needs to learn to figure something out on his own will make him more independent. Each situation calls for a different reaction. Faced with this adventure of accompanying girls and boys in their development, it is worth taking a short break, giving ourselves a relaxing break, and asking ourselves,
“What parenting style do I use the most with girls, boys, and under what circumstances? How can I transmit my affection to them and promote their growth with the style I have used so far? In each style, what would I like to apply from now on?”
Guide us by expressing affection and support, responding to their needs, and exercising their regulation and discipline through limits and expectations to promote the growth of our girls and boys.
Ileana Torres Ruiz is a teacher in Child Psychotherapy and a university professor. Lecturer on issues of prevention of mistreatment and child sexual abuse in Guardianes.
Guardianes is an Affectivity and Sexuality AC program dedicated to seeking the best interests of children and adolescents, aligned with the Sustainable Development Goals of the 2030 Agenda. Our organization has, since 2017, with the Special Consultative Status granted by the Economic and Social Council of the United Nations. Throughout its 19-year history, it has collaborated with civil society organizations to defend the rights of children and adolescents, focusing its efforts on the prevention of mistreatment and child sexual abuse. www.guardianes.org.mx
Sadness is a normal feeling in all human beings and it happens to us moms, too. Today I am going to tell you about something that has been hard for me and we are all still struggling: Covid-19. It just started when Emiliano came into our lives.
Every pregnancy is different. With Manu I did not experience any kind of sadness, I felt happy, but with Emiliano it was different. I can’t say I had postpartum depression. Everything was normal in my quarantine, but when that period passed, the next day, the confinement due to Covid-19 began.
The lockdown
In the face of the pandemic and the lockdown I had a very hard downturn. Like everyone, I felt uncertainty and fear. I was thinking, “I just brought this little human into the world and the world is falling apart”.
We were locked down and that’s when I experienced a lot of sadness. I spent over six months without even sticking my nose in the door because I had a newborn. I felt like the world was crashing down and many scary thoughts haunted me.
Even today
Thank goodness, I no longer have all those fears, but it was very hard for me to go out again. Even today, Covid-19 remains a difficult topic. Like millions of people, the pandemic has affected me greatly and continues to be difficult for me. Then we went down with Covid, imagine, it was even harder!
Step by step
Little by little I understood that we have to carry on, we have to give it a try. And yes, you have to keep living. With the vaccines, we can already do certain things, but carefully, because the pandemic is not over yet.
Like millions of mothers, my children are the ones who drive me the most. They give me hope and faith.
All human beings, women or men, must believe in something.
Whatever you want to believe in, but BELIEVE, because faith is our greatest strength. It is believing that everything will turn out well, but also having faith in yourself that you can keep on. You may not know how but visualize yourself with health, happiness and well-being. As dark as things may seem, be sure that all this will settle down, it will be over.
I don’t know if it will help you, but let me tell you about it because it has helped me a lot:
Do a lot of yoga and meditation.
Try to be in balance, in your center.
Obviously, like everyone else, I also have difficult moments, but I make an effort to try not to depend on anything external. We alone can give ourselves a cuddle and, believe me, it is what we need the most.
If you are one of those women who feel sad or depressed, for whatever reason, call it Covid-19 or postpartum depression, please ask for help.
I know it is easier to say it than to do it, many people may not have enough resources to look for a professional (because therapy is also very expensive), but try to talk about it.
When you discuss your fears, sadness, or concerns with people you trust, you will automatically feel better. They can be your friends, your family, your partner, the closest ones. I can tell that doing this helps a lot and can get you out of a big hole.
The worst thing we can do when we are in a period of depression or sadness is to isolate ourselves, lock ourselves in our thoughts, keep everything inside…
So, I recommend that if you are feeling like this, talk about it. Bring out the things that are hurting inside of you. That’s what I would advise: shout it out, talk it over and over again until you feel better!
Byt if you can’t go to therapy or you don’t have that opportunity, then talk about it with the people who love you, who will respond to you from the heart and who will want to help you. Remember that you are not alone.
I am Anahí and I am looking forward to meeting you in my next article for Baby Creysi.
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Having a second child or not, have you thought about it?
Having a second child or not, have you thought about it? I’m going to tell you what my experience was when I decided to grow my family.
When Manu was born, my husband and I always thought that God would give us the blessing of being able to give him a little sister or brother.
It was always in our plans, but I wanted to wait a bit to give my little Manu all the time he needed. Also to feel that I was ready and to prepare my body.
It was definitely something we wanted and planned together. Before taking a step forward towards the search of another child, both you and your partner need to be honest about whether this is really what you want.
I particularly believe that a brother or sister is a great gift as he becomes your friend, confidant, partner and support in life. However, I also know that we all have different circumstances and that this is not a decision to be made lightly.
Once you have made the decision, the next step is to go easy and give yourself some time to prepare your body.
Although each woman is different and the puerperium stage lasts 40 days, I recommend that you go little by little.
It has been demonstrated that a woman needs a minimum of one year to get the strength back to carry a pregnancy.
In fact, the World Health Organization recommends waiting 18 months and suggests that shorter intervals are associated with greater risk to the baby, including preterm birth, low birth weight, and other pediatric complications.
Each one of us knows when it is the right time, we can feel it, but it is worth going to your gynecologist, taking care of your diet and taking vitamins. Remember that you are not alone and that bringing a new life is no small thing.
Whether or not to have a second child is something that is decided and enjoyed as a couple. As I told you, my husband and I discussed it and the day it came true it was beautiful.
I remember that just on Father’s Day, his second Father’s Day, Manu and I gave him the news that I was pregnant and that we were going to have another baby. It was very nice.
Thank God I had two wonderful pregnancies, without any complications.
And Emiliano arrived. When we found out that he was going to be another boy I was delighted. I always thought that I was going to be a mother of girls and it turned out that God had other plans for me, which I love and am infinitely grateful for. I am so happy to be a mother of two boys that I don’t need anything else.
This is true
All mothers say this, but you will understand me because it is true, all we want is for our babies to be well, healthy, have free souls, happy and that they come into this world to transform everything. The rest does not matter.
Today I want to tell you that I am the happy mother of two beautiful boys and that I am going to do everything in my power to make them happy and good people, with goals in life.
In other words, you don’t have to give them everything, but encourage them to achieve things for themselves, to fight for their dreams and never give up.
I can assure you that, in the long run, our children will thank us much more if you teach them to work hard rather than making everything easy for them, because the day they go out into the world they won’t know how to fight for their dreams.
Well, that’s how we decided to have a second baby.
So far, I can tell you that we want to be a family of 4, but I don’t know, there is a proverb that says, “Tell God about your plans…”
I’m Anahí and I am looking forward to meeting you in my next article in Baby Creysi.
I have always believed that both working and stay-at-home moms are positive role models for children.
Unfortunately each group has its own stigmas, but today I want to refer to those of us who decided to combine motherhood with the desire for professional development, including the amount of guilt that this entails. It has happened to you, for sure!
My life has been work
Before getting to the point, something very nice that I would like to share with you is that I have worked all my life. I don’t know another life. Since I was two years old (and there is YouTube as a witness), I have been on TV and I have worked.
At an early age I learned that this was my world.
Of course, I could have said “no more”, but from a very young age I understood that to get through sometimes you have to make sacrifices. Back then, child artists were seen as strange people. Today fortunately everything has changed. Luckily, there is much more openness and respect.
The “guilt” of mothers
Now, all the things that are said about motherhood are true: you love your children before you meet them and it is a love so great that it is indescribable and exceeds you.
You are facing a profound transformation of your life. Nothing you’ve experienced before will change you as much as the arrival of your first child.
One day you are independent, participate in soap operas, go on tours, sell out concerts, and nine months later –and for the rest of your life– you will have to make each decision considering the repercussions they will have on that new being that, from the beginning, depends entirely on you.
The decision to return to work, or not…
It is an internal war and I believe that nothing has as much weight as the decision to return to work or not. It is certainly an issue that generates a lot of tension in women. I have working friends who tell me that they feel guilty for not being with their children always, and I have others who, despite being happy with their decision to be at home, admit that sometimes they feel isolated and resentful.
Respect…
I deeply respect all of them because today I know what it is to be a mother and to be criticized for making either of the two decisions.
Those who stay home with their children receive comments such as, “Oh, you’re just home”, as if it were not a high-demand job that requires all of your energy.
If you are a working mom, and unfortunately you had to miss your children’s PT meeting, there is always someone who will tell you, “I see, your work. You should pay more attention to them”.
How do they know that you are not paying attention to them?
There will always be criticism
Whatever you do, whatever decision you make, there will always be someone who criticizes you.
Hurtful comments
The worst thing is that many times the most hurtful comments come from other women, from other moms who incredibly do not seem to realize the situation that the other is in. We should be more empathetic to each other.
Is up to you…
Well, as there will always be someone who judges you, I suggest that you make the decision whether or not to return to work considering, first of all, what you want to do, what makes you happy. Once I asked myself that question, I thought and analyzed, “What is the best thing for my son” (now children, two beautiful “dolls” that I adore)?
The decision you make will be fine
The truth is that there is not much evidence about the fact that if a parent stays at home (or not) affects positively or negatively the development of children.
A study by Harvard University suggests that daughters whose mothers are in paid employment are more likely to find a job and, in most cases, in high-paying and responsible positions.
According to Kathleen L. McGinn, one of the authors of this report, working mothers are looking for ways to balance their work outside the home and their responsibilities at home, which will influence their children. Through example, children will take the same path and repeat it in their own lives.
But this study has many gaps. How did it exactly influence the children? What repercussions did it have on an emotional level? So far, I have not found anything serious that tips the balance to one side or the other.
In my case…
I made the decision considering what worked best for my family and I think that is a great issue because each of us have different contexts. The only thing I ask from you, and that helped me, is that you try to be honest with you about what you want for yourself. Consider suggestions, listen to your partner, but in the end do as your heart desires.
I will also share with you another great tip to make the decision: think about how you want your children see you.
Also in my case…
What I want is that my children realize that I am a woman who has always worked, who has come through absolutely everything, that she never gives up. That’s what I want: that they become life-fighters. In life there are many setbacks, but the important thing is the attitude and the desire to come through.
I am Anahí and I am looking forward to meeting you in my next article in Baby Creysi.
In her new facet as a businesswoman, Anahí, with the brand, will design four new collections in a co-branding strategy and will venture as a writer on the Baby Creysi editorial platform.
The first #BabyCreysiPorAnahí collection will be available on Amazon, Baby Creysi boutiques and department stores starting in November.
As part of the expansion strategy to the United States, Baby Creysi announces an alliance with Anahí, singer, actress and influencer, who debuts as a baby clothing designer and writing an article on the brand’s editorial site.
“We all have a story with Baby Creysi. It is a brand, loved by families in Mexico, which has remained in the top of mind for almost 50 years and continues to connect with new generations. With our entry into the United States market, we expand our distribution network and clients to reach the Hispanic and North American community that seeks our products”, stated David Cohen Sitton.
Baby Creysi CEO
The alliance with Anahí represents a new cycle for Baby Creysi that seeks to reach a younger audience and initiate conversations between mothers and fathers in Mexico and Latin America.
“I love Baby Creysi. It brings beautiful memories; I wore it when I was little and it was my mom’s favorite brand, that’s why my babies wear it today. As a brand, it has the potential to stand out in the US market for its high quality and designs that allow it to compete internationally”, said Anahí.
Anahí’s first collection, Quality and love, is now available. Photo: Baby Creysi
Baby Creysi by Anahí includes four collections
The Baby Creysi by Anahí collaboration consists of four collections that will be designed together with the actress, who is Manuel and Emiliano’s mother. In this way, the star consolidates her role as an entrepreneur and reinforces her role as an opinion leader in the parenting sector.
Quality and love is the first collection of the #BabyCreysiPorAnahí line and includes extra soft rompers, bodysuits and outerwear. It is already available on Amazon, Baby Creysi boutiques and department stores starting in October.
Writer and mommy blogger
In addition to her collaboration as a brand designer, Anahí makes her debut as a writer and mommy blogger with a fortnightly article: Challenges for today’s moms and families, which is published on the Baby Creysi editorial site.
Through anecdotes and tips, Anahí opens the debate to address issues such as strengthening self-esteem in children and the invisible work of mothers, the one that everyone takes for granted and is not recognized.
Her idea is to share her experience with other moms and dads because, in the end, both Anahí and Baby Creysi have been part of the lives of Mexicans for generations.
“We are a generation of moms and families who have accepted the biggest challenge of our lives and we want to grow up to see our children transform into people who will lead the future. We are strong, independent and multitasking moms and dads who seek to give love to our children on a daily basis, in simple and profound ways, without leaving behind our personal development”.
Anahí
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Baby Creysi is the leading company in the children’s clothing market in Mexico. It is a 100% Mexican company. With almost 50 years in the market, it offers quality clothing, fashion and innovation for newborns, babies, girls and boys. It is present in all the country, reaching more than 3,000 points of sale, providing a portfolio of unique products, focusing on design and quality.
All Baby Creysi products have international quality certifications (OEKO-TEX®
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Through its website, Baby Creysi consolidates itself as a lifestyle brand by sharing editorial content and fashion and style recommendations for the little ones in the house.
I confess that she shocked me. Through a detailed analysis, she explains how everything we women do at home affects the physical, emotional and psychological health, and it seems that “no one notices“.
I know that each of us has different circumstances, but in this research, the expert examines how the distribution of work in the couple is related to the well-being of women and, therefore, of the whole family.
90% of those surveyed women considered that they had full responsibility for organizing the family's schedules, 70% said they were "the captain" of the ship and 78% assured that they were the ones who knew and had contact with the teachers of the kids.
What the expert says is that the enormous mental burden of organizing a family and household chores, promoting the well-being of children and even making financial decisions generates feelings of anguish and emptiness in women. In the long run, this deteriorates health and generates dissatisfaction with the partners.
That unseen work
In some cases, when we announce that we are going to be mothers, people dedicate all their support and attention to us, but when our baby is born, it seems that we have disappeared and that we do not need help.
The fact is that the invisible work of mothers is taken for granted. It is an endless list of pending issues that seems to be magically resolved. It doesn’t matter if you have someone to help you at home. You as a mom are the leader, the one who asks for medical appointments, the one who is aware of the children’s activities, the one who organizes and knows what is needed in the fridge.
I certainly think that, like you, I am also a multitasker. And how not to be one? I truly believe that part of a mom’s job is to remember every detail, every appointment, date, or task. It is taking care of the home and raising the children, but I can also feel a great responsibility for the general well-being and the emotional states that my children present.
It is simply an exhausting job, rarely seen and validated.
Dad gets more and more involved, but it’s still not enough
The good news is that both men and women are beginning to recognize that the management of the home continues to fall on the female side. It may not seem much, but think about it: until a few years ago nobody stopped to think about the mother, always devoted, without making any complaint.
Today we know that if we want children to be well, we need to attend the well-being of mothers, our well-being.
The investigation that I am telling you about links this type of mental load to high levels of anguish in mothers. There is no doubt that this constant juggling and multitasking takes its toll on us.
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Balance is the key
It is vitally important to get organized for allowing fathers, besides being providers, to get involved in everything else in the home. We must talk about dividing the tasks in a coherent way, consciously, that is, making them responsible for some particular tasks.
That way the emotional burden and stress we suffer as moms will be more bearable. If we are calm and let our partner participate in daily activities, letting him do it his way, without controlling or wanting him to do it our way, we will surely have a better relationship with him and with our children. It is important to feel supported in order to have the emotional resources to face the great task of being a mother.
You are a priority too
We are taught that the first thing in our lives should be our children, then our partner and at the end of a long list of “priorities” we remember that we also need time for ourselves.
We have to learn that before being mothers, wives and daughters, we are women. It is normal that among so many obligations that come along motherhood, we forget about ourselves, but motherhood cannot be a sentence. It is essential that every day you dedicate a space to do those activities that brought you joy, physical and emotional well-being before becoming a mother.
Every day I give myself that “mom time” because it makes me feel good and be a better mother. I give myself a space to exercise and pamper myself doing the things that I have always enjoyed. Are you capable of giving yourself an hour a day just for you? Try it, you will regain your individuality and feel happier.
I am Anahí and I am looking forward to meeting you in my next article in Baby Creysi.
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Today is a special day. This is my first collaboration with Baby Creysi as a Mommy blogger. I share these lines with you with much love and with the sole objective of being closer and that together we explore this wonderful stage of our lives: being moms.
We have grown up together and I hope you will accompany me in this adventure. The content will evolve. We will discover moments and joys, but we will also share tips that will help us in raising our babies. Because finally that is our goal, guide them through the world, help them become good and strong people.
The first topic I want to explore with you is self-esteem in children. I am convinced that a mother who radiates self-love and self-acceptance instills the same in her children. We must love ourselves as much as we love them.
Start with self-esteem, your own self-confidence
These days the term “self-esteem” has been used a lot and it seems very easy, but it is difficult to carry it out. Building our own self-esteem goes from sleeping well, exercising, laughing, eating well, going out with friends or with our partner, or simply having some time alone.
Remember that we are the mirror of our children and we reflect everything they learn and all what they build day by day, such as their personality and self-esteem.
If a child continually hears his mother say words of disapproval towards herself, he will keep that attitude in his unconscious and reproduce it later. Undoubtfully, feeding our self-esteem and loving ourselves more help us become better mothers.
Think about it, the first contact babies have is with their mom. We are the ones who translate their needs, satisfy them and become the representatives of the world that they are getting to know little by little. Do you realize the importance of this first bond with us?
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Let them experiment
I like to teach my children to do new things. It is good that they try it for themselves because it gives them a sense of security. At first we have to help them, but then we should let them try little by little. That’s what I do.
I always tell them that I am confident they are going to achieve it and I let them do what they can, even if they make mistakes. They should experience the opportunity to learn, but above all to try and take pride in their achievements.
Don’t label them
It is very important not to use labels. When you tell them off, focus on the inappropriate behavior and not on the child himself. By putting labels like “you’re rude” or “short-tempered,” your kids can associate the mistake with their own personality. Instead, use phrases that separate the mistake from himself. For example: “I know you can stop the tantrum”.
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It’s better to highlight their achievements than to point out their mistakes
In our society we have been taught to educate our children by pointing out and correcting their mistakes, when the most important thing is to highlight their small and big achievements. They must be praised, without falling into excess.
I recommend that at bedtime, give your children five minutes to highlight their achievements no matter how small they were. Say something like, “I have realized that today you managed to stop your tantrum, I am sure that tomorrow it will be like that again” or “I really like it when you help with the housework”. Sending our children to sleep with these messages helps us a lot strengthen their self-esteem.
10 ways to help your daughter or son build self-esteem
I want to share other very useful tips that have helped me. It is in our hands to make a difference:
Your children are unique, never compare them.
Accept their feelings and teach them how to deal with their emotions.
Listen to them. Give them the confidence to talk to you about whatever they want.
Focus on their strengths and don’t try to make them perfect. Watch their progress, see what they do well and enjoy.
Tell them clearly and specifically what you expect from them or what you want them to do.
Celebrate their efforts and create opportunities for them to do well according to their age, tastes, and abilities. This is a key point because by ensuring that they have a chance to develop their strengths, they will feel good about themselves and improve their behavior.
Don’t take control. Resist the urge to do everything to them.
Consider mistakes as opportunities, do not focus on the failure but on the search for solutions.
Keep a sense of humor, help your children not take things seriously.
Encourage them to treat others with kindness.
Finally, I think the most important thing is that you remember that they learn by example. You will see that one day in the future you will turn to see your grown children and think with pride, “we did very well”.
I am Anahí and I am looking forward to meeting you in my next article in Baby Creysi.
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Psychologist, thanatologist, coach, and specialist in Existential Analysis and Logotherapy training. Tantrum specialist.
Tantrums are common and expected behaviors as part of the development of girls and boys; they usually manifest themselves in the first four years of life and are related to the difficulty children find in expressing their feelings and emotions: something that hurts them, that scares them, that makes them feel sad, angry or frustrated.
Tantrums are the clear signal that it is time to start teaching them how to self-regulate because they do not know how to do it independently. You can help them and accompany them to understand what they feel and the appropriate ways to express it. The most important, but also the most difficult, is that you remain calm.
We share some of the most common situations in which girls and boys throw tantrums, as well as tips that can help you:
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1. Learn to follow the rules and limits
Tip: Girls and boys behave better when they keep in mind the limits to be respected and the conditions of their activities. Make an effort to establish limits and rules according to their age and accompany them so that they learn to follow them.
2. Interruption in their activities or changes in their daily routines
Tip: Girls and boys need to have routines that support the development of their habits, this means, their emotional balance. Letting them know in advance that they will change activities will avoid surprises and bad times for both of you. In case you cannot anticipate these changes, you can always use strategies such as dialogue, distraction, and play to introduce them in the next activity.
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3. Learn to share with others
Tip: Keep in mind that this attitude is learned through trial and error and time will be your best ally; therefore, it is necessary to arm yourself with great patience to guide them little by little through dialogue, examples or stories where they are participants, to the practice of how they can share with others through kindness and words like “please” and “thank you”, applying it to personal belongings, food and activities.
4. Difficulty at controlling your feelings and emotions before mealtime
Tip: In case of any delay in your feeding schedule, we suggest you have snacks to avoid feelings of discomfort due to hunger.
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5. Due to tiredness, they may get upset more easily and react to minor stimuli
Tip: If there will be days with a lot of activity, we suggest that you consider times or moments so that they can take a nap or have a brief relaxation space to avoid tantrums. In cases of hunger and fatigue, it can be a little more difficult to contain a tantrum, since discomfort is a physical sensation that they cannot ignore.
When you feel confronted by a tantrum, it can be very easy to lose control and react in a way that makes it more complicated. The key point to make them happen with less intensity and frequency is to stay attentive to the needs of girls and boys because in this way you will learn to identify the moments in which a tantrum may occur and possibly you can “get ahead” or do something to avoid or reduce it.
This article was originally published in Guardianes. Check it here.
* Guardianes is a program of Afectividad y Sexualidad AC, which is dedicated to seeking the best interests of children and adolescents, aligned with the Sustainable Development Goals of the 2030 Agenda. Our organization has, since 2017, with the Special Consultative Status granted by the Economic and Social Council of the United Nations. Throughout its 19-year history, it has collaborated with civil society organizations in defense of the rights of children and adolescents, focusing its efforts on the prevention of mistreatment and child sexual abuse www.guardianes.org. mx
