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My child wants a pet, what do I do?

Posted on 29/09/2021 - 17:10 by Desarrollo WebAdictos

If you have children, you have surely faced (or will face) the request for a pet. Most children dream of a puppy or a kitten, and at first glance, it seems like a good idea. Baby animals are charming, the ideal image of love. However, if the great responsibility that it implies is not clear, it can cause great problems in the house and, worse still, many end up abandoned on the street a few months later.

Responsibility does NOT belong to the children

According to Dr. Fausto Reyes Delgado, Zootechnician Veterinary Doctor and director of the UNAM-Banfield Veterinary Hospital, there are advantages for children to have a pet, “humans are group animals”, he says, but there is a huge problem when people give children a living being.

“There are many people who think that it is good for children to have a dog so that they learn to be responsible, but the ones who have to be responsible are the adults, not the child.

The child has to play, he has to learn. It is the adult who has to educate the child on the care of his pet and mark how far he can and how far he cannot interact with it. If we don’t have those rules, if we don’t set those limits, we unfortunately see a lot of accidents where pets get seriously hurt”, he adds.

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Does your child want a pet? Visit the vet first!

Before incorporating a pet into the family, it is very important to visit the veterinarian. The specialist will guide you on which is the most appropriate animal according to the future owner’s economic and social capacities and time for it.

“Ideally, before a kid has a pet, both the child and the adult visit the veterinarian. That is something that usually fails”. What almost always happens is that the child wants a pet, the parents take it home and then go to the vet, but when they already have it.

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Not everyone is fit to have a pet

According to the UNAM veterinarian, the most serious problem that implies a great risk is that not all people are suitable to have a pet, they are not clear about the responsibility and commitment that another life means.

From the basic action of providing it with food two or three times a day, as the case may be, to providing it with attention, bathing it, giving it affection and investing in its health. Veterinary doctors ask five questions when families are thinking about getting a pet:

What do I want it for?
How much time am I going to spend on it?
Do I have space at home?
How much do I plan to spend?
Who is he going to live with?

“When you answer this questionnaire with the help of the expert, you will be able to identify if you can really have a pet. 50% of dogs and cats are in houses not because they are loved, wanted or well-cared, but for custom”, adds the expert.

It doesn’t have to be a dog or a cat

According to Dr. Fausto Reyes, dogs and cats are almost always the first options, but when you analyze the questions well, you realize that other types of animals, such as fish or a hamster that might be more convenient for you.

Opting for a dog? The specialist will also help you determine which one is best for your family. “If you want to have a dog, go ahead, but you have to pick the right one; if it gets along with children.

You have to analyze it before, but unfortunately it’s almost always the other way around.

Then you realize that the parents work all day, there is another person who looks after the children, but they don’t like dogs. Can you imagine the atmosphere?”, asks the director of the UNAM-Banfield Veterinary Hospital.

AN AGREED DECISION

A pet is a permanent commitment, so the decision must be consensual and involve all family members. If one does not agree, it is better not bringing an animal home.

Also remember that they will not be puppies forever. Many times as they grow, pets lose the attention of their owners, especially when it comes to tasks such walking or cleaning it. These are demanding tasks that must be considered. In addition to the above, there are many costs associated with having a pet, not just food and visits to the vet, when they get sick they may require surgery or hospitalization.

Having a pet is procuring another member of the family, a companion for many years; it has enormous emotional and social benefits for children, but it also involves a lot of work. Talk to your family, get advice from your trusted vet and make the decision responsibly.

Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

Spanish version

Being a woman is not defined by being a mother: giving up full-time motherhood

Posted on 27/09/2021 - 13:06 by Desarrollo WebAdictos

Those of us who have children know that we can give our lives for them. That is undeniable, but there is a fact that we should all take into account: being a woman is not defined by being a mother.

It is just as valid and respectable not to want children, as it is to look yourself as a person when you already have them; giving up full-time motherhood (the famous selfless and long-suffering mother) and remember that a happy woman is also a good mother.

Being a woman is not defined by being a mother

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According to Kalinda Kano, with whom we spoke about her book Perfectamente Imperfecta, the idea that just because we are women we have to be dedicated moms is very old-fashioned and we should eradicate it,

“Life is not automatic, and not because ‘that’s how it’s always been’, it means this is it, that’s how it has to be for you too. Being a woman is not defined by being a mother. One thing is being a woman and another thing is being a mother”, says the author.

The writer explains that motherhood is not the only way in which we assist others, “There are family structures in which one of the daughters or sons takes care of her parents for reasons of health, old age or customs. There are mothers-in-law who live with married couples, cousins who for some reason end up sleeping in your couch, dependent roommates, friends who need you to be with them, even bosses who ask you more than expected”.

There will always be people who require your attention, energy and time.

We believe that the more we serve others, the better people we are. This not only applies to the idea of the mother who goes out of her way for her children but in all kinds of relationships. We have been raised with the belief that you must give yourself to others, otherwise you are selfish, but that is a big mistake.

Taking care of you has the same priority

“Taking care of yourself and your needs should have the same priority or even more than taking care of others. Repeat after me: I am worth it, my needs are important and dedicating time to myself does not make me selfish or a bad person”, emphasizes Kalinda Kano.

The key is to set priorities and always maintain your individuality.

Let’s not only talk about reconciling family and work life, but also about reconciling your family (and maternal) life with your personal space. Each of us has pillars: home, children, work, family, friends… Where are you?

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Keys to recover yourself

Kano recommends 4 clues to recover your individuality:

Block and formally schedule a certain time per day or week that is just for you. No children, no partner, parents, friends or acquaintances. It’s your time to do what you want. It can be watching the series you like, having your nails done, taking lessons of whatever you want, putting on a beauty mask, taking a nap, etc.
Don’t always be available for others. Let them know that sometimes you can help them and other times they will have to wait. It is important for you and for those involved. Let your family know that you are going to read, meditate or listen to the podcast you like and that they cannot interrupt you. At first it will be a challenge, but at some point they will understand.
Rediscover your passions. Remember something you loved and do it.
Seek for help. Don’t try to carry the world by yourself. Ask your family for help. Sometimes they can help looking after the children. Hire a babysitter a few hours a week, tell your friend to take over with the other friend who is getting divorced and needs moral support. Asking for help doesn’t make you weaker, it makes you smarter.

We could add a couple more points:

5. Take care of your body. Not only for aesthetics, but for health. You need yourself healthy, your children need you healthy. Exercise, eat a balanced diet, rich in fruits and vegetables, especially green leafy ones.

6. Be imperfect. As Kalinda Kano says, “Don’t try to be Superwoman”, or as educator Ale Velasco suggests, “Give yourself a chance, be deliciously imperfect”.

These tips apply to every one: those who have children and those who do not. There will always be someone who will need your time, it depends on you how much you are willing to give it.

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Giving up full-time motherhood

You must understand that it is not about being a bad mother. You love your children, no one will love them more than you do. The proposal is that you just give up full-time motherhood and allow yourself to take care of yourself.

There are those who are forced by life to give up their mother’s full time for work. Sometimes you have to do it to make ends meet. Many women leave their children in the care of others for at least eight hours and when they pick them up, they find it hard to think about anything other than their children.

In this case the key is quality time. Quality time is what will allow you to make individual spaces in your busy agenda.

Of course, it is also essential that you set limits on your work, no answering messages, when it is your children’s time.

Balance, organization and limits are the ingredients to balance your life. Would you try it?

Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

Spanish version

Celebrity babies who are adorable

Posted on 21/09/2021 - 17:13 by Desarrollo WebAdictos

September is the month of babies, so we want to celebrate it with eight adorable little ones, children of celebrities, who have style and good taste in their blood. Get ready to die of love with these photos that their parents have shared with us through social networks.

Adorable Babies of Famous Dads

1. Manuel and Emiliano

Sons of Celebrity Anahí and Manuel Velasco

The singer and actress is more than happy with her two beautiful and adorable children: Manuel and Emiliano. From the first moment they conquered us with their smiling and charming expressions, in addition to those beautiful intense blue eyes, which they inherited from mom and dad. They are cute! “Here are my reason, my engine and my greatest loves in a photo”, Anahí published in the description of an image next to her babies and her husband.

Manuel and Emiliano Velasco Puente.
Photo: Instagram @Anahí

By the way, the clothes that these beautiful little babies are wearing are from Baby Creysi and are available in our online store.

2. Mary and twins Nicholas and Lucy

Children of Anna Kurnikova and Celebrity Enrique Iglesias

The former Russian tennis player and the Spanish singer have three cute children, the youngest is Mary, who was born on January 30th, 2020. The mischievous twins are named Lucy and Nicholas. The couple recently shared the first image of their little ones together, enjoying a ride in a red minicar.

Little Mary and her brothers, the twins, Lucy and Nicholas.
Photo: Instagram @AnnaKurnikova

3. Mathilda

**Daughter of Celebrity Hanna (Ha*Ash) and Juan Carlos Herrera**

After six years of marriage, Hanna welcomed her first daughter on June 3^rd, 2020. This cute little doll is called Mathilda and since she was born, her mom has made us part, through her social media, of her most tender moments. “I want to share with you the most important and greatest triumph of my life… being a mom!” She wrote at the time of announcing her pregnancy. Beautiful!

Mathilda is Hanna’s joy.
Photo: Instagram @haashoficial

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4. Gianna and Luka

Babies of Celebrity Karla Souza and Marshall Trenkmann

The Mexican actress and the American banker have two little ones, a son and a daughter. The oldest is Gianna, three years old, and the youngest is Luka, who turned one-year-old on June 12th.

“There is so much injustice in the world and, as a mother, it makes me think about which world I want to see my children grow up in. I look at Luka and Gianna and they bring me hope, but it also inspires me to dedicate myself to being part of the change we so desperately need”, Souza wrote on her Instagram account.

Luka is one-year-old and Gianna is three.
Photo: Instagram @KarlaSouza

5. Vida Isabelle

Daughter of Celebrity Natti Natasha and Raphy Pina

Last year the Rampampam singer surprised the world with her advanced pregnancy. After a long time looking for a baby, she even described it as a miracle. “So many times many doctors told me, ‘You are not going to be able to be a mother,’ and today, in front of all of you, I share this six-month-belly with the whole world”, she said during an awards ceremony.

Little Vida Isabelle came into the world on May 22^nd, 2021 and although she is only a few months old, she already has her own Instagram account with more than 1.6 million followers. She is a fashion baby and full of tenderness.

Little Vida already has her own Instagram account.
Photo: Instagram @queenvidaisabelle

6. Maria Paula

Daughter of Celebrity Dulce Maria and Francisco Alvarez

Another beautiful baby, ex RBD. This is María Paula and she was born in January 2021. Her mother has shared several photos of her baby with us. “You taught me a kind of love that I did not know, an immense love greater than fear”, it reads in one of her posts on her Instagram.

With the arrival of her little daughter, Dulce María has been sharing with her followers her memories as a mother:

“I love you my little moon, my little star, the most beautiful thing in my world and also the most tiresome one. I love you”.

María Paula is Dulce María’s “little moon”.
Photo: Instagram @dulcemaria

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7. Masha and Santiago

Children of Celebrity Ana Layevska and Rodrigo Moreira

In December 2018, the actress became a mother for the first time. “I always wanted to be a mother. I didn’t know when. This life and my career are complicated, but I always wanted to start a family”, she confessed when announcing her first pregnancy. Two years later she announced the arrival of Santiago and, since then she has given us beautiful images of her Little Suns, as she calls them. They are beautiful!

Both babies took after their mommy. Photo: Instagram @analayevska

8. Bella

Daughter of Celebrity Marlene Favela and George Seely

Nice Bella melts us with her photos on her own Instagram account. As her name says, she is beautiful, but she also radiates tenderness and cuteness. She is two years old, yet an influencer with a lot of style to wear.

Bella is a real doll. Photo: Instagram @bellaseely_

Aren’t they adorable?

Remember that you can find the most beautiful clothes for your baby in our online store, Baby Creysi. The outfits that Anahí’s little ones wear are very cool.

Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

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7 snack ideas for kids: healthy and cheap!

Posted on 20/09/2021 - 12:14 by Ligia Oliver

The time between breakfast and lunch is very long, so our little ones need a healthy snack that provides energy to both the brain and the body so that they can achieve all the functions of their physical development and learning. Whether they are in-site classes or online, it is very important that your children have a snack. Take into account some recommendations:

A snack is a light meal, not a main meal, so it should have fewer calories and be smaller than a normal meal.
The snack does not replace breakfast. Children should have breakfast daily, and eat it during the first two hours after waking up.
This snack must consist of four axes: Natural water. A portion of fruit and vegetables, food of animal origin, oilseeds or legumes. A serving of cereal.
We suggest the following meal schedule: Breakfast 7:00 a.m. Snack 10:30 a.m. Lunch 15:00 p.m. Dinner from 6:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.

7 healthy snack ideas for children

Preparing these snacks will also mean savings in your pocket; each one has an approximate cost of 13 pesos per person compared to the bought ones that can cost around 20 or 30 pesos. These are the suggestions given by the Ministry of Health:

Healthy menu 1

Taquitos of jicama lettuce and grated carrot with panela cheese (3 pieces of lettuce, ½ cup of vegetables and a slice of cheese).
1 cup of papaya cut in pieces.
1 cup of homemade popcorn.
This menu has an approximate cost of 13 pesos per person.

Snack idea 2

Nopal (prickly pear stems) cooked with panela cheese (½ cup of nopales and a slice of panela cheese).
4 whole grain crackers.
1 orange.
This menu has a cost of 15 pesos per person.

Kid snack 3

Fruit with yogurt and sesame seeds (1 cup of papaya with 4 teaspoons sesame seeds and a half cup of sugar free yogurt).
½ cup grated carrot.
14 pieces of natural unseasoned peanuts.
This recommendation has a cost of 15 pesos per person.

Healthy lunch for children 4

Beans and tortilla shells (mashed beans with 3 corn shells).
Cooked nopales salad (1 cup).
2 prickly pears.
This preparation costs 18 pesos per person.

Menu 5

Quesadilla: corn tortilla and panela cheese (1 pc)
1 cup of apple cut in small pieces.
½ tcup of jícama
14 pieces of natural unseasoned peanuts.
It has a cost of 20 pesos per person.

Snack idea for kids # 6

1 medium size fruit cut in small pieces (or ½ cup of fruit cut in small pieces).
100 grams of vegetables.
½ sandwich with a slice of bread with cheese, turkey ham or some other protein such as tuna.
Water (avoid the consumption of sugary drinks or soft drinks).
Cost: 20 pesos.

Snack #7 for your little ones

1 boiled egg.
100 grams of raw carrot sticks.
1 tangerine.
14 pieces of almonds.
Water.
Cost: 25 pesos.

Remember that cravings prevent children from concentrating on their tasks, reduce physical performance and capacity to learn.

This is a guide issued by the IMSS for the correct nutrition of children and adolescents. It might be useful.

Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

Spanish version: Here

How to be patient with children

Posted on 15/09/2021 - 15:10 by Desarrollo WebAdictos

Patience is a virtue, but it is not easy to develop.

It is linked to:

A mature, educated and humane personality.
Know how to listen, speak and be careful of each of the actions and decisions we make.
And to have a balanced mind to see things clearly and in the future.

It’s hard for all of us, but if you’re a mom, it’s definitely harder. How to be patient with children? Why do we lose it so often?

Patience with children

The act of being patient means to be perseverant in relation to something. In the case of raising our children, it is to be aware that it is a daily process, with many ups and downs.

Along with patience, other virtues such as peace, calm, tolerance and prudence are developed.

According to Alejandra Velasco, parenting expert, workshop facilitator and author of the book Ayuda, tengo hijos, for a person (especially a mother) to be patient with her children, it is essential that she has “fuel”, energy, that she is not at the limit in other life situations.

“How to be patient with children? To answer that question, I would first ask to that mother, ‘How do you feel?’ If you lose patience with your children, it is very likely that you are physically exhausted. If you had worked all day, and when you get home at night you still have to do homework with your children, logically, it would cost you much more work to be patient!”

“In these times women have acquired many more responsibilities. If you have little fuel, you are not sleeping well, you are full of activities… and now with the pandemic many moms are 24/7 with their children… How are you, mom? If you have problems with your partner, you lost your job, you have no money, or you depend economically on someone else, all of these burdens make you more desperate”, explains the expert.

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Be delightfully imperfect

For Velasco, the key to not losing patience is to be deliciously imperfect, that is, not trying to cover many activities and not wanting to control everything. We must do our best, but accept that we have limits.

“It happens that we want to be the perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect friend, the perfect daughter. That search is exhausting and counterproductive. I kindly tell you, that if you want to be perfect, everything will go wrong”.

Before wanting to be an A+ woman, mother and wife, with A+ children, give yourself permission to be imperfect: “What would you think if you start being a B- and work little by little? It is okay to want to improve, but if you demand too much of yourself, you submit your body to unnecessary stress and drag your family into that neurosis. After a while your neck hurts, you have an anxiety crisis. Better inhale peace, exhale stress”.

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Fill your fuel tank

“Before applying any strategy with your children, you must fill your “tank” with energy and tolerance. How do you fill it? Doing things for you. Many moms ask me, ‘How am I going to have time with four children?’ Well, create routines! From an early age, make your children responsible for themselves! Share responsibilities with your partner!”, explains the also author of the book, Por favor, no me griten, por las buenas sí hago caso (Please, don´t shout at me, I will listen).

Some tips that can help you to fill the tank and be deliciously imperfect are:

Create routines

It is essential for children and, believe it or not, they love and need routine, it tells them the way to go. If you schedule that they are going to do homework at a certain time, get them down to work at that time without excuse. If you agree that they would go to sleep at 9, start at 7:30 with the routine of having dinner, taking a bath, and finally put them to bed. “Stay on track”, says Ale Velasco.

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Make them accountable

Children have to assume their responsibilities.

“Be imperfect. Once I told a doctor, ‘My teenage son doesn’t tidy up his room!’ Well, close the door of the room and let him assume he is like that. We have this Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and if they don’t arrange the toilet paper the way we want, we get angry”. Just relax!

Your partner must cooperate

Carrying a load for just one person is not the same as sharing it between two. The responsibility of the children is of two; the chores of the house is responsibility of all those who live in it.

“Come to agreements. In my workshops I have a challenge called Fly where I ask the participants to first seek to be women and then mothers. When you’re happy as a woman, you’re going to reproduce it as a mom. If you are angry with your partner, you will transmit your frustrations. You have to set limits”.

Be imperfect

Many moms have trouble dealing with challenging children, but before that, the expert emphasizes, be imperfect.

“If they don’t want to sleep, turn off the light and leave him alone, that’s it! Get out of your room and he can poke his eyes if he is not sleepy, that’s his problem. If, for example, the drawing he is doing doesn’t turn out well or he doesn’t want to do the homework, leave him alone, it’s his homework, not yours. If he does not turn it in, he will have his consequence at school, or you highlight the consequence at home, but leave him, do not be after him. Set him free!”

Don’t mistake patience with negligence

Don’t go to the other extreme either. Do not confuse being patient with being indifferent, passive and even negligent, that is an extreme in which we do not want to fall as mothers.

Rather, it is about facing things with serenity, facing difficulties calmly, optimistically, always looking for the best solution.

Finally, don’t take time for mom for granted, start with minutes and increase it as needed.

“Make the T sign with your hands and tell your children, ‘Stop, it’s mom’s time, I don’t want to be interrupted in these following minutes.’ Start with five minutes, in that period no one can enter your space. You can even set a timer. This helps them accept and see that respect is a great value and that you also have your own things to do”, concludes Velasco.

Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

Spanish version

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10 keys to explain the Independence of Mexico to children

Posted on 14/09/2021 - 19:28 by Desarrollo WebAdictos

On September 15^th and 16^th Mexico throws a party; we commemorate what is considered the formal beginning of our Independence. The children wear typical clothes, on the night of the 15^th we prepare a dinner with the most succulent dishes of our gastronomy and in the morning of the 16^th, it is customary to see the parade.

That day many schools have a representation of the Grito de Dolores (Dolores call), one of the culminating points of the history of Mexico. It is very important that our children understand what happened that day.

Take advantage of the celebration to explain to your little ones a bit of our history. These are 10 keys to understand the Independence of Mexico. Review them so that you can explain them to your kids.

A long, long time ago…

List of 10 keys to explain the Independence of Mexico to children

1. What Mexico was like before

According to the book Historia Mínima de México, by Daniel Cosío Villegas, Alejandra Moreno Tascano, Lorenzo Meyer, Ignacio Bernal, among others, by 1800, New Spain (or Mexico as it is now called) had become one of the richest countries in the world, but there was a huge contrast: there was a lot of wealth for some (Spaniards and Criollos) and maximum poverty for others (mestizos and natives).

2. The caste system

One of the main reasons that originated the armed movement of 1810 was the caste and class structure. This meant that society was organized like a pyramid and people had to stay in the block (social stratum) into which they were born.

At the top were the Spaniards, classified in Peninsulares (born in Spain) and Criollos (children of Spaniards born in America).
Under them were the Mestizos (children of Spanish and native) and Castizos (children of mestizo and Spanish).
At the bottom were other descendant castes and natives.

3. Unfair society

Let’s go back a few years. In 1740, after two hundred years of being a dependent part of the Spanish empire, New Spain entered, like the rest of the world, an era of change known as the Age of Enlightenment.

The population considered part of the “nobility” owned all the wealth; they were only 0.15% of the population according to the Revillagigedo Census.

The original peoples lived in conditions of slavery, the mestizos began to be the majority of the population and the Criollos considered that the Spanish nobility was parasitic. Can you imagine the conditions?

Catalyzed by the ideas of the French Revolution and by the growing disgust against the Spanish crown and the taxes they imposed, the idea of independence began to take shape.

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4. Mexican Independence: A Criollo Movement

The Criolla middle class (illustrated) and the rich Criollos (landlords and miners) were the first to consider that it was unfair that all the wealth was sent to Spain.

In 1808, Napoleon, one of the greatest conquerors of all times, occupied Spain. The Spaniards opposed the invader and the Criollos, who did not considered themselves Spanish, tried to take advantage of the crisis to become independent and start the movement.

5. Miguel Hidalgo y Costilla, the village priest who stood up to fight

Conspiracies took place everywhere, and the Spanish reported the Criollos, accusing them of violating the trust of the empire. However, the conspirators from Querétaro, San Miguel and Dolores, upon being denounced, rose up to fight.

In the early hours of Sunday, September 16^th, 1810, Miguel Hidalgo y Costilla, a wealthy, influential teacher, brilliant ex-student of the Jesuits and priest of the town of Dolores, set the prisoners free and put the Spanish authorities in jail. He called mass and from the atrium of the church incited the parishioners to join his cause.

6. El Grito de Dolores

The priest Miguel Hidalgo y Costilla, accompanied by Ignacio Allende and Juan Aldama, called his parishioners to take up arms. He rang one of the bells of the Parish of the Town of Dolores, today Dolores Hidalgo, in Guanajuato.

The exact words that priest Hidalgo spoke are unknown, the most probable and oldest version says that he shouted, “Long live our most holy Mother of Guadalupe! Long live Fernando VII and death to bad government!” (Bishop Manuel Abad y Queipo).

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7. The Banner of Vírgen de Guadalupe

In Hidalgo’s illustrations and murals, he is portrayed carrying a banner of the Virgin of Guadalupe, the highest Catholic figure in Mexico since the 16th century. According to historians, on the morning of the 16^th, when he called the people in “El Grito”, he did not take out the religious image, he did it during the first hours of his march for independence. In any case, it is tradition that in the representations of “El Grito“, the Mexican flag is carried emulating that banner.

8. The Independence of Mexico began with only 15 people

A small group of only 15 people, according to letters from Miguel Hidalgo, started the riot without military training and very few weapons. Four months later, that group of people would become an army of 100,000 men with 95 cannons. It was not a simple protest, but the desperation of the entire town.

9. Was the Independence of Mexico on September 15th or 16th?

There is a lot of discrepancy regarding when “El Grito” actually took place, most historians agree that it was in the early hours of September 16^th. President Porfirio Díaz, who was in power between 1876 and 1911, changed the celebration from the 16^th to the night of the 15^th to celebrate it with his birthday. Since then we celebrate it on the night of September 15^th.

But check it, we celebrate September 16^th as an iconic event, but actually, the consummation of independence was on September 27^th, 1821, with the triumphal entry of the Army of the Three Guarantees (Trigarante) commanded by Agustín de Iturbide to Mexico City.

10. There were many women involved

Some people believe that few women participated in the Independence, but they are wrong. Without the participation of women, the movement could not have been able to consolidate. The most renowned ones are Josefa Ortiz de Domínguez, Leona Vicario, María Ignacia Rodríguez, Gertrudis Bocanegra, Mariana Rodríguez del Toro, Altagracia Mercado, Carmen Camacho, among others.

There was also a hidden network in which women from different social classes (mostly Criollas and natives) participated, they were called “Las Guadalupes” and they were in charge of getting donations and food.

Interesting and exciting, don’t you think? With this data you can give your kids a light explanation of why we celebrate the Independence of Mexico today and what happened on this day many years ago.

Now, let’s enjoy the food. Viva Mexico!

By the way, you can put together a patriotic outfit for your babies in the Baby Creysi Online Store. In fact, all the clothes are beautiful. Take a look!

Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

Spanish version

10 books to turn your girls into powerful women

Posted on 10/09/2021 - 17:35 by Desarrollo WebAdictos

A good book is a wise voice that remains in your life; it is a dream machine capable of transporting you to other times, it is food for the soul and the imagination.

For girls and boys, they represent a great tool to face the world; it is a shield to defend your ideals and motivation to go ahead.

This time we bring you a list of 10 books to turn your girls into super powerful women.

10 books to empower your girls

1. Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls

Author: Elena Favilli Publisher: Planeta México

From the first volume, this book became a source of inspiration for thousands of girls. This is not a book about princesses, but about real women who broke paradigms. From Frida Kahlo to Jane Goodall, from Coco Chanel to Nina Simone, from the Brontë sisters to Marie Curie.

All their stories told as a tale and with extraordinary illustrations. The second volume includes Nefertiti, Beyoncé, Rosalind Franklin, J. K. Rowling and even the Mexican golfer Lorena Ochoa, among others.

There is also a Goodnight Story with 100 Migrant Women Who Changed the World, 100 Extraordinary Mexicans, and a Goodnight Story of Fun and Adventure. All are excellent.

Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls. 100 stories of extraordinary women.
Elena Favilli | Francesca Cavallo — 100 stories of extraordinary women. Photo: Planeta

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2. Women (Mujeres)

Author: Isabel Ruiz Ruiz Publisher: Ilustropos

Women is an illustrated album that contains poets, painters, scientists, politicians… There are 18 real women who must occupy an important place in history.

In addition to the illustrations, it shares quotes that tell us about their way of facing the world.

Some of the women who appear in the book are Maria Montessori, Dian Fossey, Irena Sendler, among many others.

A book by Isabel Ruiz Ruiz, Spanish illustrator and director of audiovisual photography. Photo: Ilustropos

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3. Beautiful (Bonitas)

Author: Stacy McAnulty and Joanne Lew-Vriethoff Publisher: Astronave

Every girl is unique, witty and adorable. Beauty is not on the outside but in meeting challenges, showing kindness and spreading laughter.

This album has beautiful illustrations, but if you think it’s a traditional story, you’re wrong, rather it’s a book that plays with irony and stereotyped phrases about women.

In Beautiful, the authors encourage girls to do what they like and develop their potential.

Pretty girls are smart, strong, empowered… The phrase on the back cover is blunt: “The important thing is… be who you really are”.

Children's album with girl power. It teaches that every girl is unique, resourceful, and lovable. Photo: Astronave — Children’s album with *girl power*. It teaches that every girl is unique, resourceful, and lovable. Photo: Astronave

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4. Butterfly Ears (Orejas de mariposa)

Author: Luisa Aguilar Publisher: Kalandraka Publisher

Having big ears, unruly hair, being tall or short, skinny or chubby… Any feature can be a source of parody among children, so they would need a book to help them understand that this is not right.

This is an illustrated album that addresses two very important topics: how to develop self-esteem and how to face criticism, sometimes cruel, with humor and ingenuity.

Many bullies will continue to insist: four eyes, mop hair, tablecloth dress, but it’s up to you to be yourself, value yourself and not allow anyone to abuse you.

Intelligent story that addresses emotional development and children's self-esteem. Photo: Kalandraka Editor — Intelligent story that addresses emotional development and children’s self-esteem. Photo: Kalandraka Editor

5. Marlène Baleine (Malena Ballena)

Authors: Davide Cali and Sonja Bougaeva Publisher: Libros del zorro rojo

Malena is the laughingstock of the girls in her swimming class. She is fat and every time she plunges in the pool, she makes a huge wave, she is called Whale.

One day, the teacher whispers in her ear a trick to overcome her complex: just think the other way around! Instead of a whale, she thinks “barracuda” and starts swimming like a fish.

Malena manages to understand her own insecurities and the imposed ones. Through self-suggestion and humor (not taking things seriously), she manages to get over it, and that becomes a real therapy.

With faith and confidence in yourself, you will see that it is not so difficult to achieve what you set out to do, leaving those who make fun of others open-mouthed.

Many voices shouted, “Malena is a whale!” But she took the criticism and turned it into fuel to keep going. Photo: Libros del Zorro Rojo Infantil

6. Princesses Fart, Too (Las princesas también se tiran pedos)

Author: Ilan Brenman Publisher: Algar

Little Laura has a very important question: do princesses fart? Fortunately, her father has the secret book of the princesses with all the answers to her questions.

This book is perfect for demystifying the figure of princesses: perfect, fragile, always acting with good manners. Well, it’s time to reveal their secrets, including her stomach problems and flatulence.

Father and daughter crush one by one the supposed “perfection” of the princesses.

For example, Cinderella did not run out of the ball because she heard the clock strike 12, but because the prince squeezed her so hard that she farted. Oh, and the bubbles in the water that accompanied the Little Mermaid were not exactly caused by algae.

"Laura's father took the secret book of the princesses and told his daughter something that no one knew". Photo: Algar — “Laura’s father took the secret book of the princesses and told his daughter something that no one knew”. Photo: Algar

7. When Girls Fly High (Cuando las niñas vuelan alto)

Author: Raquel Diaz Reguera Publisher: Beascoa/Lumen

The three girls have big dreams, but the villains of the Youwillnotgetit (Noloconseguiras) gang fill the girls’ backpacks, shoes and pockets with stones to prevent them from taking off.

The protagonists of this story represent all the girls in the world who daily encounter obstacles to achieve their goals.

It seems that their dreams are impossible, but with joy, ingenuity and courage they manage to get rid of the heavy stones. The message in this story is beautiful: it is in your hands to fight to get the stones out of your backpack.

Jimena, Adriana and Martina love to run around their rooms as if they were small planes, but a mob tries to keep them from flying. Photo: Lumen

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8. Princess Li

Author: Elena Rendeiro Publisher: Egales

Princess Li lived with her father, King Wan Tan, in a beautiful palace… She loved Beatrix, a girl from a distant land. The two were very happy until Wan Tan sent for the princess: it was the time for her to marry a young man of the court.

It is a classic children’s story, but also a beautiful love story. It talks about sexual diversity and interculturality.

Can you love someone who comes from another culture? Can you be happy with someone of the same sex?

The king tries to force the princess to separate from her beloved; he visits a sorcerer who turns her into a bird and betrays him out of ambition for the throne. He will finally be saved by someone he didn’t expect.

Princess Li lived with her father, King Wan Tan, in a beautiful palace... She loved Beatrix, a girl from a distant land. Photo Egales — Princess Li lived with her father, King Wan Tan, in a beautiful palace… She loved Beatrix, a girl from a distant land. Photo Egales

9. I am a girl!

Author: Yasmeen Ismail Publisher: Cartoné

The girl in this story is constantly being mistaken for a boy. While she drinks a soda, she plays with her straw. She unfortunately spills the soda on the table. She hears the waitress sigh, “Definitely, boys are unruly and messy”.

“But I’m a girl!” she says. A girl who likes to go full speed on her skateboard, jump in the pool, play the trumpet, make noise and jump everywhere. A girl who loves both playing with dolls and running a race and winning it. She is a girl, and no one should tell her otherwise!

This is an illustrated album full of color and joy. The protagonist is fed up with prejudice and sexism in society.

She is young but she realizes that others expect her to be sweet, tender and delicate just because she is a girl. She is proud of being a girl, a rebellious, cheeky, brave, and spontaneous girl.

She is a girl and loves to play and make noise, but also to read, play musical instruments, compete and win. She is a girl and she is happy to be one.

The girl in this story is constantly being mistaken for a boy. Photo: Editorial Cartoné

10. The Paper Bag Princess

Authors: Robert Munsch and Michael Martchenko Publisher: Annick Press

Elizabeth is a typical fairytale princess, she is engaged to a handsome prince and soon they will be married.

But one day, a dragon comes to the palace and burns it to the ground. In the fire she loses all of her belongings, including her princess dresses.

The worst is not that, but the dragon has kidnapped her beloved prince. Armed with courage, Elizabeth goes in search of him to rescue him. Along the way she realizes that the prince is not as charming as she thought.

This is a story that tears down stereotypes and shows us a princess whose role is not to wait to be rescued, she takes the initiative, she goes to save the prince and along the way she realizes that there are a thousand more adventures to live.

She realizes that it's better to be a smart princess than a pretty princess. Photo: Annick Press — She realizes that it’s better to be a smart princess than a pretty princess. Photo: Annick Press

Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

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Raising without myths, a guide to a more informed parenting without so many worries

Posted on 08/09/2021 - 15:29 by Desarrollo WebAdictos

Raising without myths: It seems that being a mother is a synonym of worries, but this, like many other false beliefs that exist around parenting and how to care a baby, is a lie.

That is why Emily Oster, an economist by profession and mother of two, wrote the book Criar sin mitos (Parenting without Myths) approaching with data and scientific evidence, the doubts that parents have:

“To help them feel more informed and less likely to google answers”, says the author.

We chatted with Emily Oster about her book, which is a guide that all moms and dads should have at their bedsides. In the end you will understand that everything will be fine, stop worrying!

Life changes and you have to adapt

The birth of a baby not only turns the life of the parents upside down, but also of the whole family.

At first it can be very difficult, “My first year as a mom was especially hard. With both my kids, I have had times when I wanted to give up for different reasons, but with my first girl I felt sad. I love my daughter very much, but I missed my old life”.

“With my second child I felt better, but I was feeling sad because I didn’t want to lose the closeness I already had with my first daughter, who at that time was already four years old”.

“I think the main challenge was how to manage my time and identify what part of what people say about motherhood was a lie, what I should repeat with my second baby and what not”, explains the author.

Instead of sticking with “what people say”

Emily decided to dig deep and document every major decision she had to make as a mom. From how to take care of a baby the first days, to topics such as breastfeeding, vaccinations, bedtimes, choosing a daycare, or going back to work.

“When I got pregnant I didn’t realize how everything around me would change. I faced and overcame many challenges, but it was not until the birth of my second child that I understood the things that I had done well and those that I had not, my mistakes and successes. Then came the book”.

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Parenting without Myths or any additional stress

While being a mom and dad does come with a lot of anxiety and worry, you don’t have to add to the stress with unsupported sayings and advice.

In the book

The author demolishes myths and puts on the table, based on facts, her sentence, an informed opinion that she hopes will help other parents.

“A myth that I address in the book is everything that people say about breastfeeding. It certainly has benefits, but it is exaggerated. They say it is wonderful, that it will help you lose weight, and it will make your children more intelligent and successful”.

“I tried to identify what was true and what was not. I found that it does have benefits, especially when the baby is very young; for example it helps with his digestion. But not everything that is said is true and I think that magnifying it adds a lot of pressure to moms”, adds Oster.

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Make decisions based on what makes you happy

One conclusion Oster drew with her book is that parents have the right to make their own decisions and should always focus on what makes them happy.

“When people make important decisions, they think that deciding based on the baby is the only way to go. However, in the book I found that you should also think about yourself as a parent”.

During the research

“For example, during the research, I found that there are not many differences between children whose parents go out to work and those who are at home. That is why I tell you to think about what is best for you as a family, as a whole, what makes you happy”.

Conclusion

Finally, the book leaves us with a reflection that should be clear to us: don’t worry, you’re doing well as a mom and dad. “There are many ways to be a good parent, and you don’t have to do things as someone else says, it’s okay to find your own solutions”, the author concludes.

Criar sin mitos de Emily Oster (Parenting without Myths)

Publisher: Diana / Planeta

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Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

Spanish version

What is emotional intelligence and why should you promote it in your children?

Posted on 07/09/2021 - 16:35 by Desarrollo WebAdictos

The first ones to develop the concept of emotional intelligence were the American psychologists Peter Salovey and John D Mayer. In 1990, the authors published an article in which they defined the term as “the ability to accurately perceive, appraise, and express emotion”.

In 1995, New York Times journalist Daniel Goleman published a book that became a world bestseller and put the concept on everyone’s lips. Two years later, in 1997, Mayer and Salovey polished their definition to focus on four emotion-related skills:

Perceiving: The ability to monitor the feelings and emotions of oneself and others.

Understanding: The acquisition of emotional knowledge, identify why emotions are produced, what triggers them and how they are expressed exactly.

Using: The ability to discriminate among feelings and to use this information to guide one’s action and thinking.

Managing: The ability to regulate emotions, self-knowledge and self-control.

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Why is emotional intelligence important?

According to Luz María Peniche Soto, psychoanalyst, author of the book Entender las emociones, una guía para criar hijos sanos y seguros (Understanding Emotions, a Guide for Raising Healthy and Safe Children), people who manage to develop their emotional intelligence “decrease their anxiety, stress, indiscipline and risky behaviors”.

In addition, “they increase their tolerance for frustration, their resilience, and their well-being”.

Luz María Peniche Soto, psychoanalyst

At the beginning of the 21st century, the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization (UNESCO) launched emotional learning programs in schools and measured the results before and after the courses.

The conclusion was blunt, it is possible to modify the way in which people process, interpret and manage their emotions.

“Curiously, the countries that continued to promote these programs are well-developed and have a great economic growth, which in some way indicates that emotional intelligence not only has repercussions on mental health, but also on people’s professional and economic success”, explains Luz Maria Peniche.

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How to Teach Emotional Intelligence to Children

Think of emotional intelligence as being aware of feelings, paying attention to them to adapt to the environment and get benefits for both ourselves and others.

Mayer and Salovey propose a model to identify and work on the four branches of emotional intelligence:

Perception of emotions: Help your children to identify their own emotions and those of others. Not only with words, but also with gestures, postures, tone of voice, behaviors and even art. When they are experiencing an emotion, have them acknowledge it. Ask them what they feel. Have them express the name of the emotion in all its letters. “I’m angry, bored, confused”, “I’m scared, sad”, “I’m happy, excited, intrigued”. Remind them that no emotion is bad and that by identifying it, they can control it.
Understanding emotions: Once children know what they feel, help them analyze the reason for that emotion. That is, what is the relationship between the word that defines what they feel, with what is happening to them. “For example, recognizing that if we feel sadness it is because we had a loss”, says Peniche. This point also includes the ability to recognize changes between emotions. It is possible to go from sadness to anger, from frustration to anger, from joy to tears.
Facilitate thinking: Intense emotions can block our ability to think, so we need to ‘step back’ and calm down a bit to make better decisions. When we are able to make that stop, we can reflect better and solve the factor that catapulted that emotion. The ability to postpone impulses, regulate moods, manage anxiety is also learned. How? Ask your children what they would do if they were someone else, what piece of advice they would give to another person to solve the situation. If they move away, they will find a solution easier.
Manage emotions: When you learn to distance yourself from the emotion, you can have perspective, calm the negative ones and enhance the positive ones without repressing or exaggerating. At this point it is possible to use emotions to guide and improve our behavior. When you use emotions as a stimulus, you facilitate creativity; on the contrary, when you repress them, a depressive state blocks thinking.

Undoubtedly, emotional intelligence is a very interesting topic that we should promote in our little ones.

Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

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10 educational YouTube channels for kids

Posted on 07/09/2021 - 14:24 by Desarrollo WebAdictos

On YouTube there is very interesting content designed for our girls and boys. They go from fun songs to children’s stories or playful resources to reinforce what has been learned at school. You don’t have to ban them from watching videos! Rather, check if they are suitable for them and much better if they are also educational.

Here is a selection of 10 YouTube channels with free educational resources that your little ones will surely love.

1. Toy Cantando

A fun channel with catchy songs and very colorful videos. If you have a young child at home, he will be fascinated by Lola the Cow and other classics such as Josefina the Little Hen, The Colored Bird or Susanita has a Mouse. It also includes children’s stories such as The Three Little Pigs, Little Red Riding Hood and Sleeping Beauty.

2. Luna Creciente

It also shares songs that your little ones will love, such as: I have a dairy cow, Old McDonald has a farm or Let’s play in the forest, but there is also a very educational list with The Monkey Sílabo to learn the main syllables in Spanish.

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3. Doctor Beet

If your little one is a little older, in this channel you will find many educational resources. Countries and capital cities of Latin America, states and capitals of Mexico, Roman numerals from one to a thousand, multiplication tables, addition, the alphabet, the history of the Independence of Mexico, among many others.

4. Super Simple Songs

If you are looking for your baby to become familiar with a second language, this channel has many songs. It is especially educational for toddlers because they teach little words in English for objects, parts of the body, animals; little by little, your child will gradually learn that there is another way of calling things.

5. El mundo de Luna

Luna is a super smart and super curious girl who wonders, just like your children, how everything works. Through her fun adventures, the children discover, as well as the protagonist, all the answers to her questions: Why do stars shine? Why does everything fall straight to the ground? Where are the Martians?

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6. Cuentos infantiles cortos

In this channel you will find video stories that will help your children learn important human values. The Smug Rat, The Tortoise and the Hare, Peter and the Wolf, Goldilocks, The 7 Little Goats and The Ugly Duckling among many others are the stories found here. There are also some short stories in English, for those who want to inculcate a second language.

7. Telmo y Luna

These two brothers teach children fun songs, cooking recipes, CRAFTS and surprising experiments. These videos belong to the television series Pumpkin Reports and are available in several languages, including Latin American Spanish.

8. The Artful Parent

Arts and crafts for children of all ages. It’s in English, but you won’t need a translation because it’s super simple and visual. This channel is from Jean Van´t Hul, a writer and mother, who also founded the blog https://artfulparent.com/ On both platforms, she provides guides and tutorials for children and adults to explore their artistic side.

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9. Green Light

Another channel based on the Pumpkin Reports cartoon series, but now focused on children’s road safety. It teaches road safety when getting off a bus, what traffic officers do, what a seat belt is for, etc.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2Bhc2zouTA

10. Mundo Primaria

An educational channel that will help you reinforce the lessons your children learn at school. Subtraction, addition, shapes, prime factorization of numbers… The concepts are very simple and the videos are fun and attractive. We are grateful!

Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

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Does a strict mother raise successful children?

Posted on 06/09/2021 - 13:20 by Desarrollo WebAdictos

Some time ago a reseach by the University of Essex, in the United Kingdom suggested that people who had an authoritarian mother tended to achieve more goals in life than those who had a permissive mother. Is it true that a strict one leads her children to success?

The reality is that you have to be very careful with that statement. One thing is to be a mother who guides and encourages her children to achieve her goals and another very different thing is to be a toxic and controlling mother who imposes her will.

Authoritarian mothers and the success of their children

Erica Rascón, professor at the University of Essex, and lead author of the research, says there is a correlation between successful people and the demands of their mothers. To draw this conclusion, she surveyed more than 15,000 children ages 13 to 14 over a six-year period.

In her results, she shows that children, whose mothers had high expectations, had much more confidence and security. Additionally, daughters who had persistent and “annoying” mothers had a 4% lower chance of getting pregnant prematurely, while boys had a higher chance of finishing college.

However, the research, which was not published in any renowned scientific journal, does not specify or define the term “authoritarian”, “strict” or “naggish”. Can we call authoritarian a mother who guides her children and teaches them discipline through consensus? Of course not. Is it the same for a mother who decides for her children the path they should follow and controls them even in adult life? No!

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The harm of being a toxic-controlling mother

According to Lucy Serrano, psychologist and individual, family and couple therapist, author of the book El precio del amor (The price of love), although we have idealized the mother as an example of love, dedication, self-sacrifice and concern for children, sometimes there is a different reality. “Of course you shouldn’t generalize, but there are mothers who unintentionally, wanting to protect their children, become controlling, absorbing, limiting”. Instead of doing well and leading their children to success, they become a factor against their children that can have repercussions throughout their lives.

“Of course there are no perfect mothers, we all make mistakes. But how many mothers think that by controlling their children is how they protect them of danger, they fill them with resentment, such as when these mothers tell girls that all men are bad?”

According to the expert, controlling mothers want to direct the lives of their children, even when they have already started a family. Although they do not admit it, they are narcissistic, wishing to have flawless children as a reflection of their own perfection. Before society, she is an exemplary mother, but she can be critical or distant in her relationship with her children.

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They can cause deep wounds

There are many subtypes of the controlling mother, such as the competitive mother, who sees her children (especially her daughters) as clouds that do not let her shine, so she becomes aggressive or rejects them. In all cases, although it is possible that they force their children to reach certain standards, this type of mother tends to leave deep emotional wounds in them. “In many cases the emotional wounds are very deep. For example, if there was some type of abandonment or physical abuse, professional help is required to analyze each individual case”, explains the therapist.

If you have a controlling type of mother, the expert recommends, besides seeking professional help, be discreet, focus on making your own decisions, and stop seeking her approval. “If you have a controlling, toxic mother, the first thing I ask is not to tell her everything. The more information you give her, the more she will get into your life. Look for help and remember that, not because she is your mother and she is older than you, she is the possessor of the absolute truth. I’m not telling you to lie to her, but if you know she’s that type, be discreet and don’t ask her permission or approval to take any step. Set limits through dialogue. Tell her that you are sorry that her opinion is different, but that it is your decision and you will deal with the consequences”.

In many cases, it helps when the children achieve independence and are old enough to live in a different place. However, as long as the child continues allowing it, that mother will continue to interfere in his life.

Remember that you borrow your children

The expert points out that it is important that all mothers, whether they have young, adolescent or adult children, think that children are independent people; they have to guide them but, in the end, they will have to carve out their own destiny. “I do not agree that a mother, just because she gave birth to you, thinks she is the owner of your life. Here I speak to the mothers. It is not like that, your children do not really belong to you, they are not your property. You are in charge of them for a little while.

You do have a responsibility towards them and there is no better way than giving them all your love, but they are not puppets or marionettes to handle as you please”, says Serrano. So, is it that a strict and authoritarian mother raises successful children? The answer is… it depends on many factors, it depends on what you mean by strict, it depends on the reaction of the children.

Undoubtedly, we always have to encourage our little ones to reach their goals, but I repeat, there is a big difference between being a mom who promotes discipline and a mom who becomes toxic. What kind of mom do you want to be?

Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

Spanish version: Here

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Children and technology, why you should find a balance

Posted on 02/09/2021 - 17:59 by Desarrollo WebAdictos

Balance instead of banning: give children alternatives so that they naturally limit the use of technology. Do not condemn devices, seek a balance that helps them participate more of the real world. What do you think about the idea?

Children and technology

Since long before the pandemic, children have been immersed in the technological revolution. They were born into a hyper connected world and, after Covid-19, the use of digital platforms became the means of communication, learning and even socialization par excellence.

There is no turning back, digital tools are here to stay, but now it is up to us as parents to teach the new generations to enjoy the world as much as possible, at least as it was before.

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The ban in China

Recently, in China, the authorities decided to prohibit the use of electronic devices to those under 18 years of age, outside the established hours. The restrictions included any devices like smart phones, and online video game companies cannot provide services to minors after hours. Children in that country can only play one hour a day between 8 and 9 at night, Fridays, weekends and holidays. The measure, announced by the National Press and Publication Administration (NPPA), seeks to curb what the authorities call video game addiction. According to the Chinese government, this addiction is guilty of social illnesses, including distracting young people from their school and family responsibilities.

According to the research, Niños en un mundo digital (Children in a Digital World) carried out by UNICEF, the excessive use of digital technology can contribute to depression and anxiety in children. Although prohibition should never be the approach, we do have to give our children alternatives so that they understand by themselves that the world is better seen with their eyes, not though a screen.

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“Children should be a little hungry, a little cold, and have less technology”

Alejandra Velasco, author of the book Ayuda, tengo hijos (Help, I have children), explains the need for balance in our little ones through a blunt statement: Children should be a little hungry, a little cold and have less technology. “With this, I mean hunger as the desire to do something for themselves. When I was a child, I remember that, for me, the best gift was going on a trip with my family; or if they asked me what I wanted, I had many options, I was hungry to know the world. Now you ask a lot of kids what they want and they say they don’t know”. “Cold means let him struggle a bit. But this is what goes on these days: if his shoes are a little worn, instead of polishing and cleaning them, you say you’ll buy new ones. And the last point is to have less technology, setting limits. Control the hours they watch television or use devices, but giving them alternatives, through consensus”, says the author.

Children require alternatives to technology

According to Velasco, it’s easy for moms to distract their kids with devices. “It’s very easy, really. You have them at home absorbed in the devices; you are tired, or you need to do other things”.

But children are made of imagination, and their creativity must be stimulated. To do this, the parenting expert recommends some measures:

Give them artistic things to do: Whether inside the house or going to lessons (with precaution and hygiene measures), it is important that children explore their artistic side. Painting, crafts, building or even board games (chess, dominoes). “It can be once a week”, adds Velasco.
Children need to play sports: The expert recommends that at least twice a week your little ones do sports or some vigorous physical activity. They have a lot of energy, they need to jump, run, get tired. Exercise will make them feel happy. Don’t miss: What if my partner doesn’t set limits on our children?
Learn to play an instrument: Music is another option. It helps them coordinate their breathing, relax their pulse, learn to concentrate and control their emotions. The power of music puts children in good spirits. Try several instruments or just singing, look for something they like.
Invite them to play: Regardless of Covid-19, we are in a world where children can no longer roam the streets alone safely, as in past generations. However, you can make yourself some time to accompany them.

“For example, after lunch or on the weekend, they will surely want the technology, but give them alternatives. You can tell them to go out and play hide-and-seek or invite them to walk the dog. Set a balance and try to lessen technology. The main point is to reach a middle point in upbringing”.

“It is a constant struggle with the children, but set a timer on it. Kids get into technology and they want to go on and on; there is no end. In the past, we used to go to sleep with a bed time video clip. Now it’s 8, 9, 11… 1 in the morning and there are still cartoons on TV”. They get the iPad and there is always content on YouTube. Remember that you are a mother, and mothers are here to encourage them, not to be permissive with them.

Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara

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